If you’ve clicked through to this blog then it’s likely that you are considering adoption. If either you or your partner is a stepparent, adoption is a natural stride towards solidifying the family unit and doing away with annoying ‘step’ parent-child labels. However before you make the leap of faith, tread carefully. Consider whether adoption is truly right for you and what it will mean for the future.
Today we will cover some of the key indicators that can determine whether or not it’s the right time to adopt. In addition we will walk you through some of the initial steps towards adopting a stepchild.
Reasons to Consider Adoption
Adoption can have a significant impact on both the child’s sense of belonging and the family unit as a whole. Here are some common signs that you could be ready to adopt:
- You have lived with your stepchild for a considerable length of time
- You provide for your stepchild financially
- The child considers you to be their ‘real’ mum or dad
- You are a major part of the parental decision making process
- You simply want to formalise the relationship
- The child trusts you and comes to you for advice and help
- A combination of all the above
When to Reconsider
Although it’s understandably exciting to think about making your family more cohesive, it’s more important to make the right decision. Below are some signs that indicate it might be worth giving adoption a second thought before you take the plunge.
- The relationship with your spouse has hit a rough patch
- You see adoption as a way of strengthening your marriage /relationship
- You think making the next step will ensure that your child provides you with unconditional love
- You want to receive tax credits or financial gain in any way
- You feel like you should adopt, even if it’s not what you want
- A combination of all the above
Initial Steps to Take
If you are certain that you want to take on the lifelong commitment to adopt then you must first seek consent from the biological parent. This is processed by signing an Adoption Surrender in front of at least 2 witnesses.
The next step is to file a Petition for Adoption plus additional documents to support your campaign for adoption. Remember that if the stepchild is older than 12 then they will need to consent to the adoption before you can progress your application.
Looking for more adoption guidance on your route to parenthood? Adopt Wales to the rescue! Visit the Contact Us section of the website to find details of your local agency.